Thursday, September 23, 2010

Help!! Feedback Needed!



Anonymous said...





Ms Trudy Callan, please stop begging for attention all over people's blogs? It is getting really old, and it is annoying enough on your own blog to be honest. Don't mean to be mean, but someone had to say it.

To my faithful readers out there, someone has comented very negatively about me being annoying and begging for attention all over people's blogs. I really want to know how you feel. Be honest!

Evidently it was annoying enough to this person that they felt compelled enough to tell me although they did not want to be identifiied. I certainly don't want to be annoying my blog world frioends out there so feel free to leave your feedback. but please don't do it anonymously. If you make it anonymous, I won't know if you're really sincere or just somebody who's prone to being negative. I'm always open for kindly help with my blogging. Even though this person wasn't kind, I would like to get realistic feeback from those of you who like me. 

One of the reasons we blog is that we are hoping people will read it and enjoy it. So I try to get word about my blog out there -- "...you have not because you ask not..." -- but let me know what you think. Am I just this annoying pest begging for attention? Are you all out there gettting really tired of hearing from Sewing With Trudy all over everyone's blogs. 

And back to self-promotion. On Monday, I am posting about a fashion shoot I did wearing a retro Vogue dress. See you then. ;)

63 comments:

  1. First...I'm glad I seem to be the first comment, Second...
    When I first started blogging YOU were my cheerleader! To me...we need people like you. People that get out there. You really encourage people.
    And third...
    You will always have bully's out there. That was rude, next time just delete and know you are loved out here in blog land.
    Smile sweety....it's all good!

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  2. Trudy--You are my bestest bloggy friend in the whole world. I don't care where you go because I no know one who has worked so hard to help other bloggers get going and be successful. Anyone who becomes your blogging friend, is getting more than you ever get by your 'self'promotion as the other reader called it.

    There would be no 'Comin' Home' if it weren't for you. You emailed me over and over again telling me which contests to sign up for. I literally would have NO followers without your help.

    Doesn't sound like a selfish blogger to me--just a diligent one.
    Great job Trudy (and don't worry about anonymous comments--they are irresponsible.) If that person was good and kind and really cared, they would have emailed you privately and explained their concerns. Since they didn't, I don't think you need to take them seriously. It's just tomato throwing.

    Love you bunches!
    Donna @ Comin' Home

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  3. Oh yes--and I LOVE that photo! I also have a photo of all my kids with spoons stuck to their noses including a 16 yr.old Andrew. Some kids (and men) never grow up do they? Tee-hee!

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  4. Trudy- Everyone likes to receive positive comments and encouragement on their blogs posts, thoughts, and projects. My blog is new but your positive comments on it are greatly appreciated and it makes me realize that I need to go out and spread that positivity on other peoples' projects and blogs. The sewing community is a positive friendly one. But as with all groups, there are those who will occasionally be negative. Try not to let it get you down.

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  5. I'm sorry someone felt the need to make such a rude and uncalled-for comment. I think most of us blog because we want to make a connection with the larger world, and appreciate the comments and support from those who share our interests. We won't find those people without reaching out from time to time! Perhaps this person is secretly jealous of your ability to build social networks, or just doesn't understand or value them. Perhaps they just woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. :) Don't let them worry you!

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  6. Wow! When you left a comment on my sad blog I was happy and touched that you took time out to leave a comment. I've seen you post on other blogs and have never thought, there goes Trudy that show off! It takes a big person to hide behind "anonymous". Keep being you and don't let the haters bring you down.

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  7. Trudy, delete that comment and forget about it. If you didn't promote your blog I would never have found you and I would never have started my own blog.
    I for one love you, your blog, and am proud to read whatever you put out there! xoxo

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  8. Hey you are welcome to come to my blog and beg for attention anytime ;-] I welcome sewing divas!

    Anyhoo, I thought that's what blogger is all about anyways...to connect with others and to talk all about yourself, and to share. What are we going to blog about besides ourselves and our point of view? The entire blogger concept is based on people talking about themselves, is it not? So as far as I am concerned, you are not doing anything that everyone else is doing. Plus I get inspired from you.

    It's a hater, just ignore it Trudy!

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  9. I'm with all the others here. Ignore the negative comments! Most likely it was someone having a very disgruntled day and felt the need to take it out on someone.
    I know I'VE been at the brunt end of that stick before. YUCK. I know how you're feeling.
    Just remember that there are people out there who like what you say! You're not provoking controversy, like some are. You're not saying bad words.
    You're giving us sewing enthusiasts some inspiration! And that's what we love about you.

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  10. I agree with the other posters. Delete that comment from Mrs/Mr Cranky Pants.

    I wish I could promote my blog as well as you do yours.

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  11. I had an Anonymous commenter last week and have since changed my settings but it wasn't what she said, it was the way she said it they hurt me. But then I thought why let it bother me - Anonymous comments don't count, they usually come from people in denial who are too cowardly to use their name. I apologised to my commenter and explained how I was right and they were wrong. http://elijahsmum.blogspot.com/2010/09/vintage-explained.html

    Try not to let those comments get you down, usually when people put you down it's because they are missing that part in themselves. I bet they don't have the social networking skills you have.

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  12. I'm a new reader of your blog and wouldn't have found it but for the community aspect of bloggers. I consider this a benefit, not a detriment. I'd ignore the haters if I were you.

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  13. Wow, that's just rude! If this person finds anything you do annoying then why continue to read your blog or read the comments you make on others' blogs? I say ignore this negative comment and carry on as you were. If people choose not to read what you have to write then that's fine but there's no need for them to be rude and tell you what you can or can't write about on your own blog! Similarly why should they let your comments on someone else's blog bother them? I hope you are able to forget about this person's harsh words and carry on with a blog you obviously enjoy.
    Betty

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  14. Does this person not want your comments? Weird. This person can set up his/her blog so that he/she won't receive comments. I love comments. It lets me know what people think, gives me ideas for ways to do things better, gives encouragement, etc...... Please continue coming to my blog and leaving your kind comments!
    Bah Humbug is what I'd say to that person.

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  15. He is a rude, simply. You should ignore it, someone who hides behind an anonymous does not deserve to be heard. You are owner of your blog and do what is convenient, but rude people should be ignored.

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  16. Ignore Trudy. Everyone does what seems right. You talk in your blog, write, sew, show their work, the work of their children. To me, it's good to visit you from time to time .... It also provides a way to have special "friendship."

    As I said: Ignore. All the best for you and your family..:)

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  17. Mean people stink. Cowardly anonymous people are worse. I'd bet that is someone who is simply jealous of you. Take what your friends say to your heart. Take unkindness to the dumpster. {hug} from someone you don't know!

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  18. I think Mickey said it best!!! Unfortunately there are people out there who aren't too comfortable with anyone else having the spotlight. The fact that you spend time commenting on others sites instead of just your own makes you a "fair" blogger. I love your blog, what you do-- just keep on doing what you're doing!

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  19. I'm new to your blog and glad I found you. Don't let anonymous keep you from doing what you do. Delete and forget!!!!

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  20. That person is called un-lovingly called a troll on the internet. They are called that for a reason. They say negative and hurtful things to make themselves feel better and they do it anonymously because they are cowards. These people do not deserve your attention.

    Don;t even blink at something like that. Just say "wow, what a coward. They must hate their life." and move on.

    You rock.

    Noelle

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  21. Perhaps someone has a problem, and I truly don't think it's you. The Internet is for sharing, and blogs are meant to be commented on.

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  22. Some folks have issues!!! I wouldn't worry about them.

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  23. I love getting comments from you on my blog! You are such an encouragement to those who haven't been blogging for very long (like myself). There's absolutely nothing wrong with getting the word out there about your blog, and providing positive feedback on others' blogs at the same time. As hard as it is to ignore negative comments like this, I agree with everyone else: You should completely disregard it.

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  24. Hi Trudy,

    Thank you so much for stopping by my blog and saying "Hi!" I am always delighted to learn about other blogs and have happily added you to my blog roll. :)

    Responding to people like your recent commenter in ANY WAY AT ALL just encourages them - they thrive on the neagtive attention and knowing that they have planted doubts and stirred up hurtful feelings and controversy. The only truly effective response is to completely ignore them.

    You have over 300 followers. I think you must be doing something right... ;)

    All the best!
    Take care,
    Gwen

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  25. UNBELIEVABLE rudeness!! I think someone has a jealousy problem!

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  26. Ugh, Trudy! I have trouble with anonymous posts from time to time and even went through a period when I no longer accepted them (though I changed back).

    As others have said, do what you do and be yourself. If someone has a problem with something, they can approach you privately with constructive criticism if they care to. A comment like that, which is obviously meant to wound, is hateful.

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  27. Oh and I so love comments from you...and Donna...and anyone else!!! it is encouraging.

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  28. Trudy, I am a fairly new follower and how rude of that person. Obviously jealous and a troll..Ignore!

    Bab

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  29. Ms. Trudy, Continue to express yourself. Everyone out there in the blog world does just that. You always have encouraging words. Keep doing what you do.
    C

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  30. I only just found your blog through Victoria (10,000 Sewing Hours), and I am so glad I did. I too have a deep faith (Muslim), and we are hoping to homeschool our children, and I have a (not very active) blog, mainly to document my (as yet pitiful) attempts at sewing. So to see a blog like this, with ideas for getting it all done etc, is great.

    And to be honest, if I saw a comment that annoyed me on someone else's bog, I always have the option of just skipping that comment, or that guest post, etc. And what you do on your own blog, is really your own business.

    As someone I know says, "Opinions are like noses; everyone has one." If you don't like someone's you always have the option of just skipping it, or disregarding it.

    Thank you, and best wishes.

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  31. I have long admired your positive spirit and how you have wanted to bring women together, make connections and truly make your and their lives better. I admire how genuinely bubbly & enthusiastic you are, and there are not many folks like that in the world. I wonder if that commenter misinterpreted your zeal and friendliness as pushiness? I wonder why she felt someone had to tell you her opinion, I mean what is the harm in trying to drum up blog traffic? Don't people spend millions and millions on advertising a year to sell products? Why is it bad to promote, especially when what you are promoting is something that is not only free, but positive and happy?

    But on a personal note, I know it is hard to take criticism. Negative is never fun. You have to check out this post over at the wishstudio, it addresses how hurtful folks can be on the internet:
    http://wishstudio.com/2010/09/20/courageous-conversations-the-in-crowd/
    very timely!

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  32. Hello Trudy,
    I don't see anything wrong with your blog. I hardy post much of anything but projects I'm working on. I'm sure alot of people would find it boring, but that just means they are not into the same things I am. Really I like to share what I do and if they don't like it they have no business on my blog. Lol's

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  33. I'm new to your blog. I think you should just ignore anon. Some people just aren't worth your time.

    I'm glad I found your blog.

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  34. how rude! and they are just begging for a different type of attention by posting that comment. i personally would like to thank you for taking the time to read peoples blogs and commenting because everybody loves it!

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  35. Trudy, negative comments are hurtful and say more about the person who is making them rather than the person to whom they are directed... but I've had one or two trolls so I appreciate the comments do hurt and can stay with you for ages... just read all the positivity and love from the above commenters and myself who appreciate your sweet comments and kind words and remind yourself the positivity here must outweigh that tiny bit of negativity by a thousandfold!!! Cheer up, and wishing you a wonderful day!

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  36. Are you sure it's not simply spam/trolls? I have a spam filter on my blog to avoid inconveniences.

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  37. That was a mean and unnecessary comment - you should pay no attention to it. You are a kind and generous person and you shouldn't change a thing. Your blog is lively, entertaining, inclusive, positive and popular - keep doing what you do.

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  38. I saw this blog topic listed on another person's blogroll, so thought I'd comment since that was requested. Though I'd prefer to remain anonymous that doesn't seem a choice, so my comment is 'it takes all kinds' and that particular complainer was THAT kind.

    It's hard to figure out the meaning by the two lines written, but it seems as if the intent is rather more clear.

    I haven't ever read this blog before, although I do like art and creativity, and having a good intention in the world, I am also pretty interested in why people come up with their point of view, as well as trying to determine the validity.

    My blog is pretty neutral. I do invite discussion, but based on some logical argument. I'm not into 'because I told you so' or 'because it's always been that way'.

    Good luck on your blogging!

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  39. you are doing good
    don't worry
    i came from the wishstudio

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  40. Jeolousy is usually the reason. I love your blog and was happy to "trade" following each others. That was a great idea.
    Good Luck and keep it coming lady!

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  41. While we like to think we live in a civilized world, it has become more apparent each day that atrocious behavior gets attention. The troll wanted attention and got it, from you, me and the others. You know they’re lurking out there reading your post and the comments. Let’s IGNORE and hit DELETE.

    FYI. Keep creating, keep blogging, and keep doing it your way!

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  42. I feel a little sad for that anonymous commenter sending negative energy out there... You're doing just fine my dear! And how brave of you to even write this post! :)

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  43. Dear. Trudy,

    I'm appalled by this behavior. This person is ill mannered and wrong. I've written my post in regard to this subject it affected me so. I'm so sorry that you had this experience. You write beautifully and it's nice to share with you. An anonymous commenter is cowardly and in this case entirely Wrong. We are all blessed by you and thankful for your blog.
    Heart & Blessings
    Elise

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  44. Keep yourself true and don't change a thing. Your blog is a joy to read. Rest assure that Karma will take care of "anonymous".

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  45. You have always been very sweet and faithful. Wow, sorry to hear this. I try not to respond to negativity, and it would have been better if they would tell you who they are so that you would know not to frequent their blog anymore, as to not annoy them. Wow. God Bless.

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  46. I read this great quote tonight and thought of you:

    "Infusing our work with our intensely personal truths, whether our approach is secret and softly subtle or literal and triumphantly loud, empowers our creative spirits as well as the spirits of others who are on similar paths." Kelly Rae Roberts in "taking Flight', p93

    the same could be said for your blogging style - so you are loud (in a good way) it is empowering to those many who need to hear from you! the world needs all sorts, the world needs Trudy!

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  47. Trudy don't ever stop being Trudy! It would be a sad day from me if I didn't receive one of your supportive and encouraging comments!! That person obviously has no life and is jealous of you...take it as a compliment!

    Your a good friend and don't change who you are!
    Hugs,
    Java

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  48. Trudy did not really know what goes on in the mind of a person, she must be very unhappy, and wants to infect you with his pessimism, nevertheless, as we say here in Brazil, "Arise, shake the dust and turn it up ".
    I love it when you leave me comments, it is not impertinent, and calling upon.
    Cintia
    aprendizdecostura.blogspot.com

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  49. Trudy, I just awarded you the One Lovely Blogger award. I'm sure you probably already have it..but I want to give it to you too. You are on my post today.

    Love,
    Donna @ Comin' Home

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  51. Dear Trudy,

    You have always been an inspiration and a great encouragement to me! From your lovely picture at the top of this blog, to meeting you in person to take sewing lessons from Emily, I have enjoyed "you". I am glad that you blog in the style that you do, don't change a thing.

    I have been thinking about the negative comments of the Anon. person. I was flooded with anger and irritation (how dare they say such ugly things!) Here is a person that cannot even punctuate a sentence correctly, expressing themselves in an immature, catty, unpleasant way!

    In the Lord, I know you will stay true to who he made you to be. That is the lesson I am learning for my own life. Thank you again for allowing us all to "see" who you are...a beautiful woman!

    Love,

    Dede

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  52. Well, I don't think your annoying!!:)
    ~Aimee~

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  53. Trudy Dear, first, thanks for the shout out! I've been crazy busy with office work, so am way,way behind on reading and posting. I can't wait to get caught up, so that I can start sewing. I haven't read the previous comments, but I would consider the comment as spam. (Just to be on the safe side, you might want to change your password.) Just today, I received a really ugly message on facebook from someone I don't know. URGGGGH

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  54. Anonymous is a prolific commenter, and a coward, isn't s/he? I moderate comments on my blog for precisely that reason.

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  55. How rude indeed. Can't understand the reaction at all. Comments in general are very welcome to most bloggers, they certainly are to me too. Never felt you (or anyone else) asking for attention. I feel bad regularly that I can't follow all the blogs of the kind people who leave comments at a regular basis. Publishing with your name is the least you can do, and it has the advantage others can find you if you have a link or profile attached. That's the way the blogging world works.

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  56. Trudy, you are awesome and that rude person is simply jealous of you! Your shoes are too big for him to fill and he wished secretly that he got all the attention that you get! He will get over it so you keep doing what you do! I personally feel inspired when I see the way you interact with other people's blogs!

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  57. Blogger has a new feature that allows you to delete "spam" comments. You can delete those that are not spam as well. Others have already said it, forget about the anonymous post. I enjoy reading lots of blogs including yours as I take away something positive from most all blogs I read. Don't stop blogging because of one mean spirited comment, if you do then they "win".

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  58. Negative comments by anonymous people are to be ignored. Seriously. They are so negative and unhappy in their own lives, they have the need to extend it everywhere they go. They do this anonymously because they know they would look stupid (I hate that word but I'll used it here)if they were to come out of their hole.

    My sister works as a secretary at a grade school. They immediately throw all anonymous comments in the trash or delete bin. They are never validated. They take all complaints seriously from people who are upfront as they can back up their claims.

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  59. Looks like I'm late to this party, but I will comment anyway. I'm an occasional lurker on your blog. I am a mother of 4 little ones (ages 8, 6, 4 and 2; and we're still not done!), so I love seeing other larger-than-most families like yours. I admire your family-centered and Christ-centered lifestyle. I am in awe that you homeschool and got one kid (so far) to college with a full scholarship. I love to sew and I like to see what projects others have to share in the blogosphere, including yours. In short, I enjoy your blog. :-) I think Anonymous was a coward not to post using their true identity. If they don't like what you do, they don't need to visit your blog, let alone make mean and pointless comments. And let's face it, self-promotion is part of blogging. There's nothing wrong with inviting new readers. If it weren't for readers, there would be no point in blogging. Forget that silly comment and look at all the positive comments here and all your followers to see that you're doing something right!

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  60. Oh and thanks for posting that information on Inflammatory Breast Cancer. I can't believe there isn't more awareness out there.

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  61. I can't really comment on this...as I've only just discovered you! I am here via a comment on Fashion over Fifty blog, primarily because I'm looking for other bloggers my age. :)

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  62. It's just plain rude and has no truth in it, so don't listen to this type of comments

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  63. I know its a good few months since you posted this, but all I know is that when you posted on my brand new blog just a little while ago, it let me know that someone is reading what I write. Writing encouraging comments on someone's wall should be encouraged, not discouraged. You are a wonderful voice of help at a time when not everyone online is as nice and kind.

    Keep doing what you are doing.

    As aside, your blog is wonderful and informative.

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