I hope I didn't give you a negative view of having children in my post on searching for balance. Having children is one of the best things you could ever do for yourself. It is one of the most rewarding things you will ever do for yourself. Also, when you get old, you won't find yourself alone in the world; you'll have family there for you. When you're a parent, you find out so many things about yourself that you didn't know; you grow in so many ways as a person; it stretches you; you expand your horizons and learn new things.
Having a family takes you from being a self-focused, self-centered person and gets you outside of yourself and you become other centered. Your life becomes bigger and with more purpose, and it's not just about you anymore. You want to do more and be more for them. It is so amazing because you get to play a part in the shaping of a person, a character. Through this little person, you can affect and change the world. You can make the world a better place with this one life. You will send them out like arrows; and they and their offspring will make a difference in the lives of thousands, good or bad, depending on what you poured into them. So when you are home with them, every diaper changed in love, every drink of water you pour, every meal you serve, every nose you wipe, every story you read, every walk you take, you are not a slave, these are not just menial little never-ending, boring, drudgery-type tasks, you are making a difference. You may not see it now. You are not some insignificant person. You are doing more for the world than the woman out in the work force. You are doing the behind-the-scenes work that no one ever sees. You are rewarded when they wrap their chubby little arms around you, when they give you a fist full of weed flowers, and when they go out into the world and you see who they have become because of you.
Children take a lot of time and can be very exhausting and exasperating at times, but they can also be very inspiring and bring so much joy. They are so cute, and it's amazing to watch them grow and discover the world around them. And fortunately, they usually come one at a time to get us used to the idea.
If you do not have children already, do not be afraid and do not deny yourself the great gift the world, God, could give - A Child! You will be changed for the better and you will be so blessed and you will rise to the occasion. You can do it!
Below is such cool song about moms. It's called The Mom Song by the Fish Boys. As mom's we do so much. We are tireless. Our job is round the clock. We wear so many hats. We are doctors, cooks, teachers, mediators, and the list goes on. We work all day without pay. Going to work would seem like a vacation. But there is no other job in the world where we can make such a difference. You will love this song. Share this with all of the moms you know.
No doubt that being a mom is hard work, but it's also heart work. We want to reach their hearts. We want to mold them from the inside out, to shape their characters in the direction we think they should go and ensure that they do not rebel. If you have any wonderful tips and advice for parenting and shaping these little ones, I would love to hear it.
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Great post. You are 100 percent correct.
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Being is a mom is, by far, the best thing I've ever done for myself. Even more, the moment I gave birth to my first child, I understood clearly the definition of "awe"...and understood being touched by the holy. I was fortunate enough to have experienced those feelings two more times as our family rounded out with three kids.
ReplyDeleteHaving said all of that, in a society that devalues motherhood, I have known women who were not touched by the experience of having children and I've always felt sad for them.
What a wonderful post. You are so right, it is hard work but also heart work. Love that. Having children will stretch you and define you and bless you! I am a homeschooling mom too, btw.
ReplyDeleteI think it's so cool that you sew. I was thinking today that I should have learned to sew while I had the chance. I suppose I could learn now, but I don't even have a machine. Perhaps someday!
Being a mom is one of the hardest but most rewarding of life's gifts. It really hits when your children grow up and have their own children and you get to see them doing some of the same things you did when they were small. They do these things unconciously most of the time. It is so rewarding to see the love they have for their little ones, just like you have for them. Grands are an unbelievable gift as well!
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